The Attachment Confessions

Your Attachment Questions Answered: Listener Q&A

Hello, Confessions Fam! Welcome back for episode 23!
He’s baaack! Everyone’s favorite Dismissive Avoidant (actually, recently discovered Fearful Avoidant who leans avoidant) – Brent Stokes – is joining the pod again to help answer YOUR questions!
You’ve inquired – and as your semi-fearless host, I’m here to give you my {not so} expert attachment advice, purely based on my past year of personal heartbreak, Phoenix-like rising, and next-level obsession of burrowing down the attachment science rabbit hole. 
When the people have relationship questions, we’re here to give you the best possible answers to your attachment woes. Been there, done that – got 3+ decades worth of insecure attachment T-shirts!
Today is going to hit hard, provide sound advice, and bring clarity on your most-asked attachment questions I’ve received over the past 7 months since TAC launched.
As ALWAYS, please ask any attachment-related questions or just chit chat with me on Instagram @theattachmentconfessions
To have your question answered on future Q&A episodes, send an audio message with your name, location, and question to the “TAC hotline” to be featured.
Love you guys so much and thank you for your heartfelt questions!
xo - Chelsea & Brent
Links from today's episode:
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Born & Raised Secure: A Deep Dive into Secure Attachment

What’s up, Confessions Fam! Welcome back to the pod for episode 22!
Today we are putting a bow on our current four-part series where we've been diving deep into each attachment style one by one.
The final feature? Our few-and-far-between Born Secures!
Have you ever looked at a couple and thought to yourself, “Man – that right there is straight-up relationship goals!” – It’s a refreshingly beautiful sight to see, isn’t it?? 
So today we’re getting an up-close and personal look at how in the world our lucky born secures turned out to be so darn healthy and stable.
Those that formed a secure attachment from the start unfortunately do not make up the majority of the attachment styles, but thanks to the amazement that is the human brain, those of us who weren’t blessed to be born secure still have a chance to reprogram our insecure patterns and work towards earning our own attachment security.
Whether you’re an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, or a fellow {healing} Fearful Avoidant, today’s Born & Raised Secure Deep Dive will leave you inspired to do the inner work so that you, too, can experience healthy, secure love.
Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be motivated to embark on your own attachment healing journey. 
xo - Chelsea
Link from today's episode:
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Disorganized Attachment: A Deep Dive into the Fearful Avoidant

Hello everyone! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions for episode 21!
Today's episode is part three of our current four-part series where we're examining each attachment style even further.
This week's feature? The Fearful Avoidant.
**Alexa: Cue Katy Perry's 2008 hit "Hot N Cold"**
Sometimes referred to as Disorganized Attachment, the FA is the most complex of all the attachment styles. And not to brag, but – it’s also the attachment style of yours truly ; )
Have you ever wondered why you tend to be hot one minute, cold the next in your relationships? Ever been baffled by the on again, off again patterns of a former flame?
Well, buckle up – today’s Fearful Avoidant deep dive is about to finally make the relationship light bulbs illuminate like never before.
Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey. 
xo - Chelsea
Links from today's episode:
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>>The Love Doc/Dr. Sarah Hensley's website
The Love Doc | Relationship Coaching Services

Avoidant Attachment: A Deep Dive into the Dismissive Avoidant

Hello everybody! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions for episode 20!
Today's episode is part two of our current four-part series where we're dissecting each attachment style even further.
This week's feature? The Dismissive Avoidant.
There's a reason why this insecure attachment style seems to get the most attention of them all. The DA is oddly enough the most predictable attachment style, yet oftentimes the most frustrating for anyone who's ever had their heart broken by a Dismissive Avoidant (same girl, same).
So sit back, relax, and get ready to have your mind blown with today's DA deep dive.
Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey. 
xo - Chelsea
Link from today's episode:
The Love Doc/Dr. Sarah Hensley's website | The Love Doc | Relationship Coaching Services
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Anxious Attachment: A Deep Dive into the Anxious Preoccupied

What's up, guys! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions for episode 19!
Over the next few weeks, we're going to be dedicating full episodes to getting super deep with each attachment style.
This week's feature? The Anxious Preoccupied.
If you've ever found yourself in the throes of an anxious attachment – whether you've been the guilty party or have experienced dating an AP – today's episode will make this attachment style make SO much more sense.
Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey. 
xo - Chelsea
Links from today's episode:
MillionPodcasts feature | Best 30 Attachment Theory Podcasts in the US
The Love Doc/Dr. Sarah Hensley's website | The Love Doc | Relationship Coaching Services
Thais Gibson's website | Personal Development School
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Love Languages vs Attachment Styles

Hello, everybody! Happy Valentine's Week! Welcome back for episode 18 of The Attachment Confessions.
On this week's episode, we're doing a deep dive into a topic that I've received a number of questions about since starting the podcast – love languages.
The 5 Love Languages is a concept developed by Dr. Gary Chapman in 1992, and his work has shaped how millions of people around the world understand the concept of giving and receiving love. 
So, in the spirit Valentine's Day, we're going to take a look at the difference between love languages vs attachment styles. They are certainly intertwined, but the science shows us that our formed attachment style is actually what predicts our preferred love languages. 
Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, a fellow Fearful Avoidant, or Securely Attached – knowing and understanding your own and your partner's attachment style and preferred love languages is an absolute game-changer in creating a healthy, successful relationship. 
Wanna find out you or your partner's love language? Take the quiz here:
The Official 5 Love Languages Quiz
Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey. 
Happy Valentine's Day!
xo - Chelsea
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Relationship Goals: How Secure Couples Handle Conflict

What's up, everybody! Welcome to episode 17 of The Attachment Confessions!
On today's episode, we're diving into a topic that is a major factor in either making or breaking a relationship – how couples handle conflict. 
Fights. Arguments. Tension. Disagreements. Misunderstandings. All-out war. 
There are few things more dreaded in life than when there's trouble in paradise. Chances are, you're a lot like me – AKA you've been an absolute train wreck at handling conflict in your relationships. 
Conflict. Is. Inevitable. But a primary element that sets secure couples apart from the insecures is that they've mastered the art of effective conflict management. 
So today, we're taking a look at the tactics secure couples swear by when it comes to handling the hard times the best way possible.
Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, or a fellow {healing} Fearful Avoidant, we could all stand to learn a thing or two when it comes to dealing with discord in a more healthy, mature, secure manner. And this week's episode is sure to set you on a path to handling the dreaded C word like a champ!
As mentioned in today's episode, here is a link to attachment expert Dr. Sarah Hensley's "Achieving Your Attachment Security" online coaching program. In this program, Dr. Hensley provides her step-by-step no-fail conflict resolution plan. I wish I had this plan in my former relationships!! I will definitely be using it moving forward.
The Love Doc - Coaching Programs
Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey. 
We've got this!
xo - Chelsea
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Insecure Attachment Patterns: How to Stop Repeating Them & Actually Take Accountability (yes, even the hard stuff)

What's up, guys! Welcome back for episode 16 of The Attachment Confessions!
"I am who I am – take it or leave it!"
Sound familiar??
Maybe you've had partners make similar claims? Perhaps your current partner has told you this a time or two? Or shoot, you might even be the guilty party, just like I have been in past relationships!
Today's episode is all about facing the person we see in the mirror and taking accountability for our not-so-pretty insecure attachment behavior.
New Year, New Us!!
Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, or a fellow Fearful Avoidant – it's time to put our insecure patterns in the past, and experience life and love to its fullest.
Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey.
xo - Chelsea
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Dating & Relationship Resolutions For 2026

Happy New Year's Eve, everyone! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions!
Since we are on the cusp of a new year, there's no better time than now to set some solid dating and relationship goals.
Whether you're single, dating, or already committed to someone special, this week's episode is packed full of resolutions to ensure that your love life thrives in 2026. 
Cheers to the new year!
xo - Chelsea
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Love Bombing & Attachment: How to Spot It, Why We Fall for It, and How to Get Out

Hello confessions fam!! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions!
On today's episode, we're diving into a topic that has been all the rage on social media in the dating world, especially over the last few years – love bombing.
Not gonna lie you guys, just the mention of that term gives me full-on body chills. In the worst way!
Love bombing is essentially bombarding a new romantic interest with over-the-top attention, affection, compliments, and the extravagant, finer things in life very early on in the getting-to-know-someone phase. I've been love-bombed a time or two, and let me tell you, it can feel absolutely amazing! For those of us with an insecure attachment, that is (healing Fearful Avoidant, party of 1, right here).
However, love bombing is not a true testament of someone's motives, character, or {realistic} true feelings. In fact, there are two types of love bombing to be aware of – narcissistic-driven and attachment-driven. In today's episode, we'll break down each type along with some helpful tips on how to appropriately spot and handle a love bomber in action. 
Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, a fellow Fearful Avoidant, or Securely Attached – this week's episode is sure to set you up for success next time you feel premature love grenades coming your way.
Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story,  you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey. That's my hope, at least!  
xo - Chelsea
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